Dear (Some) Men [I say some because y’all get offended when we say all],
I want to start this off by saying that we, the feminine population, love you immensely.
I used the word ‘hate’ in the title because it really is a deep-seeded hate that overcomes our bodies. It passes, but while we’re feeling it? That’s hate, honey. That being said, I have to uncover a harsh truth about why we get so angry with you sometimes.
When you do dastardly things like cheat on us, lie to us, betray our trust, or just do something incredibly stupid, we become enraged. I confess that our rightful ire has roots in an unexpected place.
In other men’s pants.
Whenever you fuck up royally our thoughts immediately go to all of the potential partners with amazing penis & financial backing we passed up just to hold on to you, because we love you.
I can vouch for at least 86% of American women when I say that the one phrase we’d LOVE to shout at you when you mess up is:
DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH SHIT I GAVE UP TO BE WITH YOU?!
The trips I turned down? The dinners I opted out of? The sex I didn’t get? The gifts I gave back? The calls I didn’t take? UGH. After all the sacrifices and fun times we gave up just for you to do some fuck shit?
Of course we can’t say that because then your feelings (or as you call it your “ego”) will be hurt. Lord knows the male ego is historically one of the most damaging aspects of society.
We get so mad because we could’ve been with someone else. Harsh but true. Had you just been honest, we could’ve worked out whatever. But because you like to lie and take away our agency, we’re mad as fuck. Don’t think we’re not loyal because if we weren’t we wouldn’t be in this angry predicament with you. But the reality is that women are more apt to “dating like men” than you think.
I don’t think you grasp how many options women truly have, despite the reports of there being only 1 man for every 7 women in the world. Women are bombarded with offers, propositions, opportunities, chances, and leg ups (no pun intended) daily. We have the power to move mountains simply by giving the right man the time of day.
Each opportunity is precious, especially if you’re living the gospel, so passing up on someone who can assist you in your endeavors is a deep regret that many women have.
Once a woman finds out that she was wrong about you, she can blame you for a time, but she really wants to blame herself for not seeing what you were truly capable of & not making the right choice. I’ve certainly been there.
The reality is that all of this love stuff is a crapshoot. You have to take the risk; it’s just part of the game.
I just thought you deserved to know why we’re really mad.
Spokeswoman for Real Live Gals